It's too far away!

I'm really starting to think that this house is going to be too far away from my job.  :( :(  

I live about 10-12 miles away from my job right now (depending on the route I take).  With traffic and the fact that I have to take a bunch of side roads, it takes me about 20 minutes in the morning and 25-30 minutes to get home at night.  

The new house will be about 16-17 miles away, and although the roads are a bit more major and I should be able to travel a bit more speedily... I'm probably looking at 25-30 minutes in the morning and 35-45 minutes at night.    I do have the option of taking expressway for about 90% of the drive, that increases the distance to 20 miles, but if I'm going at time when traffic isn't an issue, it may be the best bet. 

 Now that extra 10 minutes might not seem like much, but as it turns out where I live right now is probably a *little* further than I'd like to be.  It's about perfect in the morning, but about 5 minutes too long at night, so adding 10 minutes onto that, twice a day, every day.... does not make me happy.  In fact, it's depressing me quite a bit.  That's 20-30 minutes every day, or 2-2.5 hours per week, that I could be doing something that I don't hate (and I do hate driving with the fiery intensity of 10,000 burning suns)  not to mention all of the extra gas and vehicle wear that will accrue over time.  

I did consider this before we decided to build, but I kinda convinced myself that it wouldn't be a big deal... and now I'm kinda convinced that it will be.    Theresa did try to address it with me, but she just mentioned it once or twice and then gave up, she needs to learn to be more forceful, not give up and make me confront this stuff that I just dismiss when I get stubborn! :)  

We don't really have a lot of options on where to live.   Theresa works on the east side, and possible will have to move to a new school even further east and/or north at some point.  I work on the west side.  Between her work and my work we have Madison Heights, Clawson, (cities we really don't have a desire to live in)   Royal Oak (which we love, but the houses are generally small and/or older and that' quite a drive for Theresa) Birmingham or Bloomfield Hils (too pricey) and Troy... which is pretty clearly the best fit.  So I'm confident we made the right decision in terms of the overall city. But Troy is a lot bigger than I initially gave it credit for and I would be a lot happier if this house were on the west side, or even in the center instead of on the very east side.  That extra 2-5 miles is a big deal.  

But the opportunity presented itself where it did and now here I am.  I suppose I could always get a new job... but I don't want to.  However, it is pretty much a given that at some point I *will* change jobs and the Troy location gives me easy access to that I-75 corridor and all of the jobs in Troy, Auburn Hills, Sterling Heights, Southfield, Birmingham, Rochester and even Downtown Detroit.  It's a pretty good location from a tech job standpoint.    I'm not sure it's quite as good as being in the Novi/Canton/Livonia/Dearborn/Ann Arbor cluster.... but it's close.  

Maybe it won't be that bad.  A lot of people have a commute that's a lot longer than 16 miles and 30-45 minutes and they survive.   I just don't want to be one of them. 

Maybe I can just get a new Corvette... it won't do anything for the distance I'll be driving or the  time I'll spend doing it... but it will do a hell of a lot for my disposition.  Except the huge flaw in that plan is that I'm spending all my money building the house and that leaves very little left for expensive toys... even if they are pushing close to 400hp.